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Learning is a never-ending journey. I've learned much from my mentors, from the wise sages in my life. I feel it is important to share and pass along some of what I have learned – and continue to learn. I believe we are all responsible for smoothing the path for those who come after us. And I know that we are all connected and here to support one another.

My purpose is to:

  • Improve organizational effectiveness through individual development
  • Improve individual effectiveness through organizational development



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December 2007

Celebrity of the Year

Again, what does it say about our society that Britney Spears is the celebrity of the year?  What has she done to get this kind of attention and for what are we honoring her?  This is based on USA TODAY's Celebrity heat Index and it reflects weekly gossip magazines, TV ratings and Web traffic to see which celebrities were getting the most attention.  Britney had almost twice as many points as the second place person of Angelina Jolie. 

According to the USA TODAY, "What fascinates America about Britney is that it's a very sad story.  America is watching to see how this story ends, and they like a happy ending."  While this may be true, it says what many people in society value.  Are these the stories that should dominate our attention?

What about the people who are working hard to make a difference in the lives of others?  What about people who are saving lives?  Fighting for our freedom?  Fighting for their own lives because of illness?  As Buddha said, "All that we are arises with our thoughts."

What are you thinking about?

AARP Revisited

After a little more research, I discovered that AARP dropped the words "American Association of Retired Persons" in 1998 and now officially use just the initials AARP.  Since amost half of the 39 million member are still working, this makes sense.  In 1983, the age required to join the organization dropped from 55 to 50 creating an even larger group.

But I still think we can come up with a better name because the initials remind us of an antiquated image of retired persons.  What does it mean to retire anything?  We are not "retired," but we are ready for the next phase.  What do we want to do in the second half of life?  This is the question we need to explore.  While AARP is an important organization, we need to come up with a forward thinking and proactive name.  We need a name that reflects who we are as a group:  creative, innovative, energetic, and ready to make the world a better place for those who will follow us.  Send me some suggestions and let's start a movement.  This could be fun! 

AARP=NOT!

The American Association of Retired Persons (AARP) needs to change its name.  This is not going to resonate with the baby boomers.  Yes, I am a card carrying member and I am proud of it.  In fact, I enjoy the magazine and I will take advantages of the discounts.  But I have heard several friends say that they will not join just because of the name and stigma.

Let's change the name.  How about starting a movement to come up with a new name and then to change it?  Who will join me?  Send me suggestions for name changes and your thoughts on how to proceed.  If baby boomers rule as they tell us, then let's make this change.  What should we call it?   

Investing in a Chairlift

If I never skied another day in my life, I would be just fine.  But I have become a big believer in ski vacations because of the investment we make in chairlifts.  Let me explain if this sounds confusing.  There are many reasons why ski vacations bug me. 

First, they are so expensive.  The prices for food on the mountain makes me sick to my stomach, but they know if you want it you will pay for it.  Second, I only relax when I am down from the slope.  The whole time I am worried about falling or getting knocked down by a snowboarder dashing by.  I don't call this fun.  Third, we tend to ski in December and I would prefer sun and spring skiing.

But, the investment we make in chairlifts is worth it.  Yes, they are expensive too.  The value and payoff comes in having your kids trapped on the lift with you.  We have some of the best conversations we ever have on the lifts.  They can't run and get away from you.  It is such quality time that I can't think of comparisons. 

If we were home, we would rarely see our kids because they would rather be with their friends.  If we were on a beach, I don't think they would be talking as much to us.  There is something about being on a lift out in nature that we talk about all kinds of things.  They don't even get mad or lip off because they know they are stuck with us for quite some time.  And if there is also a stranger on the lift, the kids are really nice and usually want to be on their best behavior. 

As I think about the money we are investing to keep the chairlifts operating, I am reminded of how much value is being added to our family conversations.  Skiing is a good investment even if I never skied another day in my life. 

The Awakened Leader

This quote is from The Awakened Leader:  One Simple Leadership Style That Works Every Time, Everywhere by Joan Marques:

"As leaders and people, we are all 'awake' to a certain degree.  The question is, 'What are we awake to?'  Are we primarily awake to our ego, our self-interest, our fears, our image, our success?  If ego, self-interest, and fear are the masters of our identity, then our leadership will play out in a certain way.  Arrogance, control, domination, and a scarcity mentality will likely be the resultant behaviors.  On the other hand, if we are more awake to our deepest essence as a person, focused on serving the needs of others, and if we have faith/trust that is bigger than just about any circumstances we face, then a whole new set of behaviors come forth from our more deeply awakened leadership.  So the real question of awakening is this:  Are we awake to our light that serves or to our shadow that copes?"

What does it take to become an awakened leader?  This question will be explored in future blogs. 

What's Wrong with Our Society?

For years, I have not been able to understand the buzz surrounding Brittney Spears.  Why do we even care what she is doing and who she is with?  What did she do to deserve this attention?  It seems the worse her behavior the more attention she receives.  My first thought is about her children.  Where are they when she is out making a scene?  It is no wonder that Brittney has had custody issues. 

Now, the focus is on her 16 year old sister Jamie Lynn who has announced she is pregnant.  For the young women who are obsessed with these people, this is a sad statement about what is going on in our society.  I did not even want to see the movie, Knocked Up, because even the title bothered me and what it communicates to young, impressionable girls.

Then I read where the mother of Brittney and Jamie Lynn was writing a book about parenting.  I also read that the book has been pulled which makes me think it was a book about how to be a good parent.  What's wrong with our society that we give these people so much power and influence?  We should be reading about people who are working hard to make a positive difference in the lives of others.   We need to focus on role models who inspire us to give back, help others, and make the world a better place to live and work. 

I just had to share these thoughts.  What's wrong with our society that we even care about what Brittney and Jamie Lynn are doing with their lives.

I Wonder as I Wonder ...

Yesterday we were in the airport on our way to a ski vacation in Utah.  As we were sitting in the busy terminal in Denver, I had the time to just watch people.  Several thoughts went through my mind such as the movie Terminal with Tom Hanks.  He gets trapped in an airport terminal and shows us what he has to do to survive. 

But as I sat there, I observed all kinds of people on cell phones wondering: 

  • Who are they talking to and what are they talking about? 

Numerous people were walking around and I wondered: 

  • Where are they going?  Why are they going there?  Who will be waiting for them at the other end? 

People were reading and I wondered: 

  • What were they reading?  Why did they choose to read that? 

There were people just sitting there and I wondered: 

  • What are they thinking about?  What are they going to do as a result of their thoughts? 

We were at a holiday program the other night and the choir sang I Wonder as I Wonder and it made me realized, the sense of wonder is powerful because it reinforces the mystery of life.  It keeps life interesting.

Religion vs. Spirituality

For the past several years, my interest has been spirituality in the workplace.  In addition to interviewing more than 40 authorities in this area, I have interviewed authors for the International Center for Spirit at Work (ICSW) www.spiritatwork.org and senior leaders in organizations that have received awards from this ICSW for their efforts in creating a spiritual workplace. 

In my interview last week, we discussed the difference between religion and spirituality because this is one of the major hurdles for senior leaders.  As the workplace becomes more diverse, this becomes an issue.  The conclusion was simple, but profound.  While spirituality includes religion, spirituality is much more inclusive.  Religion tends to be divisive as people are put into religious categories usually based on denominations and various religious traditions.  Spirituality is a uniting term implying that the common ground among people is the fact that we are searching for purpose and meaning.  Spiritual people believe in a higher power and how they define that is individual. 

Since I could not stop thinking about this conversation, I wanted to share it with my readers.  Is anyone reading this in the blogosphere?  I would be interested in your reaction.  Thanks. 

Ray Andrews: Inspired by Ansel Adams

Ray Andrews:  Inspired by Ansel Adams

This is the piece I’ve meant to write since meeting Ray Andrews about five years ago.  In fact, I could probably write a book about Ray because of the influence he has had on photography and people in Des Moines.  Ray died on November 16, 2007 suddenly of a bad heart.  Those of us who were lucky enough to know him, would describe him as a humble, wise, and gentle spirit.  For these reasons, it is not too late to tell part of Ray's story as a way to share his legacy.

I first met Ray at an exhibit of 10 women photographers.  Fortunately for me, a friend invited me to participate after someone had canceled and Ray was one of the judges for the show.  Confident of my photographs of Mexican women leaders because my exhibit had been touring public places in Iowafor a couple of years, Ray critiqued my photos by saying, “They are good, but they would be better if they were in focus.”  I had never heard that comment before from anyone.  But after Ray brought it to my attention, I could not look at them without seeing that the photographs were definitely not in focus.  It was at that moment that I decided I needed lessons and Ray agreed to be my teacher.  In some ways, we were an odd couple.  My preference was always to include people in the photos and Ray was the opposite.  He said that he had done enough weddings in his past that he preferred landscapes.  One of his favorite photographs is featured in this article.  It is the classic Ansel Adams image of the Snake River in Wyoming.  Ray was so proud of this photograph because is it is impossible to take the same image today because the trees have grown and block the view.

Ray had been active in photography for over 40 years and was one of the founders of a group called “The Fine Print Club “in Des Moines.  He was president of The Des Moines Camera Club many times which named Ray the “Photographer of the Year” at least three times and he continued to teach judging workshops and judged photo competitions for years.  While Ray had been a fine arts photographer for decades and he won numerous awards and received many accolades, what gave him the most pleasure were his students. 

During my last lesson, he told me that he would never have believed that a retired mail carrier for the U.S. Postal Service would be teaching so many professional people.  His students included doctors, lawyers, and other people he considered of higher status than he.  When I told him I had my Ph.D., he seemed somewhat surprised, but then said that he would now add that to his list.

In this same last lesson, Ray shared with me that he had a history of heart problems.  When Des Moines started performing open heart surgeries in 1970, Ray was the ninth person to have the surgery and he was proud to be the longest survivor.  When I told Simone, his wife, that he had shared this and that I had no idea, her response was, “It is his students and teaching them that has kept him alive all of these years.”

At a time when the whole world is giving up film to turn to digital photography, Ray, who only used film, told me that he is as busy as he has ever been and he was selling his work more than ever.  He believed darkroom photography would always have a place because of the artistic element.   In fact, he said that he had no more openings for new students.   

For me, being with Ray was more than sharing our love of black and white photography.  I enjoyed being around him because he was a “sage.”  A sage is a person who continues to learn, is wise, and mentors others.  Ray’s passion for photography was contagious and he was generous in sharing his time, talents, and expertise.  Since he was never in a hurry, Ray was a calming influence.  It was peaceful being in his presence.

It was not until I went to visit Ray in the hospital that Simone told me he could only see out of one eye.  Evidently several years ago, he lost the sight in one eye but he did not let that slow him down.  I found this unbelievable because Ray would always make sure my photographs were in focus.  For Ray, so much about photography was about intuition and experience.  He said that taking the photograph was only the beginning.  It is in the printing that a photograph becomes fine art.  Each print was a labor of love with Ray.  When I see a high quality black and white photograph, I will always remember Ray Andrews, the Ansel Adams I had the privilege of knowing. 

 

Enchanted

A week ago we went to the movie Enchanted on a whim.  As empty nesters, at first we felt odd going to a Disney movie, but we loved it.  It truly is enchanting.  There is something to enjoy for all ages and I was intrigued with the whole experience.  It is such a "feel good" movie that I wanted to blog about it.  As I was watching it, I thought of these questions:  Why can't most people be that nice? What does it say about society that we find the behavior of the princess to be the exception and not the rule? 

Her spirit was so positive and up lifting.  Why is this not the norm?  What can be learned from this movie?  Why can't we act as if positive things get done as a result of a positive attitude?  It was the perfect example of positive mental attitude.  And we love happy endings.  What's wrong with that?  I give it five stars.  What do you think? 

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