Questions Not Answers

We talk about how questions are important rather than the answers.  I have been learning more about this in my spiritual prayer group that is led by a spiritual director.  After a person shares their story with the group, the group can ask questions, but can not give answers. The purpose is for the group to ask questions that will help the presenter tap into their inner wisdom. The questions cannot be worded as advice or instructions such as, “Have you considered …” or “Do you think asking …would help?”

This is a difficult task because we tend to be conditioned to give answers.  But when you take the time to word the questions thoughtfully, I have been amazed at the insights gained from the questions.  I find myself continuing throughout the week to think about the questions.  Isn't this what life is about anyway? 

• How might I use this technique to be a better parent, friend, person? 

That is the question I am pondering.

Comments

[Avani-Mehta]

Hi Jann,
Thanks for linking to my article.

[Jann Freed]

Thanks for commenting on my site.